4. Never say anything remotely negative about anyone behind their back. Ever.
Growing up, my dad would constantly repeat one phrase to my sister and me. “Remember two things: treat people the way you want to be treated, and never talk about anyone behind their back.” Needless to say, I failed at recognizing the importance of the latter.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not a gossip. As much as I enjoy a good tea-spill, I don’t enjoy talking shit. But unfortunately, sometimes I say things I should really keep to myself.
Here’s the thing: words get twisted all the time. Even if you think something you’re saying is innocent and not prone to start drama, it’s possible that it sounds worse than it is. If you’re not sure, just think of how you’d feel if you heard someone say the same thing about you.
In the vast majority of cases, an issue you’re having with a friend should be brought to them directly (or let go of, if it’s something minuscule). If you just need to rant, a trusted family member is the perfect person to go to; that way, you can release your frustrations and move on, instead of causing drama and talking shit.